So I am a firm believer that body language tells a lot about the person. Some body language can be used to discern what is truly going on in someones head, other body language denotes how that person feels about who they are around. This can be in the case of how a person feels about the person they are having a conversation with or even can show how a relationship is going and can sometimes be used to predict how long the couple will stay together. Some of what body language so called “experts” say is false at least in my humble opinion, but I will go into that in further detail.
The Handshake
Look if someone really has respect for another person they will present that person will a nice firm handshake, I’m not talking about a death gripe but a reasonably firm handshake that seems to say nice to meet you, this is important. I’m so tired of the two most common types of bad handshakes. Note I didn’t patent the names of them, they are Miss. Prissy Fingers and the Dead Fish. Miss Prissy Fingers just seem to put out her fingers so you have to gripe the fingers instead of the whole hand. The Dead Fish is a hand that seems to have no muscle in it. So the other person has to hold up the dead hand. Both of these inferior handshakes seem to show a lack of respect for another person.
Smiles
Seriously a smile can make someones day whether or not they actually know you. I have gotten plenty of smiles from strangers and hello, it just makes me feel better. You really do not know how much impact you can make at another person so make sure to smile at others. If you smile at someone trust me it will come back to you. So please have on an honest happy smile and not faking it. If someone fakes a smile it’s as obvious as a chick with a fake orange tan.
Hugs
Look there are two types of people in this world, those who hug, and those who think its awkward. I am a member of the first group, I was trained to be this way and I’m proud of it. Though some people are not so fond of hugs, if this is the case please respect their boundaries. But at the same time, those who don’t like hugs please be understanding that there are people out there who unlike yourself do like them. We like to show you how glad we are to see/meet you by giving you a hug. But if you really don’t like hugs, please as mentioned above, give a proper handshake.
Okay now on to hug etiquette: Please don’t give the whole one arm hug, it makes the person see that you really don’t want to give them a hug and just looks unnecessarily awkward. The other type of hug I can’t stand is the whole I’m gonna use two hands but just tap your shoulders with my fingers. I mean that is like the princess prissy fingers of hugs, not acceptable. If you really want to give a legit hug, do it with two arms for a couple of seconds. Its really not that hard and makes it seem that you actually like the person.
ROMANTIC HUG ALERT: So my friend reminded me of this one, look you can tell how someone feels about you from a hug. If it is a lazy hug, they really don’t care that much about you. If they give you a legit, two arm, couple of seconds hug they enjoy being in your life and want to be there for you. But if a guy or girl is giving you a hug that last longer than a couple of seconds and it seems like they are holding on longer than the usual length of the hug, they are either a. socially awkward and not understand social cues (rare), or b. they probably want to date you and or are physically attracted to you.
Holding Hands
You can tell a lot about a couple from the distance between one another. One way you can see distance is in how a couple holds hands or if they do at all. I am a firm believer that if you are secure and happy in your relationship then you will want to hold hands with your significant other and be close to them. If a couple is holding hands but their other hand is all over the person, touching them, it means one of two things, either they are trying to hard to show how much they “like” the other person or hormones are flying everywhere. When holding hands tightly with no space between them, the couple seems really happy. Especially if they want to hold hands while driving, that says to everyone we don’t care if you see us. We don’t need the whole world to see, but we wanted to always be connected. But those couples who don’t hold hands or who barely hold each others hand are not very connected and therefore usually not as happy. Something is going on in their relationship that is causing a disconnect and unfortunately they are not as close as they could be.
All in all, I could go on forever about different mannerisms and ways in which others position their bodies and what each one means. What I do think is that you can learn a lot about other people from their body language, some just says get away from me, while other body language might say I’m lonely. What is important especially is that you learn that body language is important and it should be taken into consideration. Last but not least, sometimes your interpretation of body language is wrong. I mean usually a body language expert would say someone with crossed arms is closed off to others but for me, sometimes its just a comfortable position or one to use when I’m cold.